Are you always waiting for something better to come along? Maybe you stall in replying to invitations that are more than a few days away or maybe you have commitment issues when it comes to career or relationships.
Well – we’ll let you in on a little secret – the less you commit and engage in now – the less you’ll get out of now!
The trick is to know what you want, what makes you happy, what you enjoy, what you value – define what you consider worth your while to spend time on and then own it. Don’t be afraid to say “no, thank you” and even more importantly remember to say “yes, please”!
One of the things recurring in both our stories is reflection. Taking the time to stop and take stock of life. Taking the time to ask yourself a number of questions about what you want from your life and daring to answer truthfully. Being honest with yourself can be a difficult exercise. In our workshops the participants benefit greatly from reflecting aloud together with another person. You may also benefit from reflecting with a close friend.
One of the reasons why being honest with oneself can be hard is that admitting that you are not happy may feel like saying that you have not succeeded or that you have been wrong. To us, it is a victory to become more and more conscious of your life and switch off the autopilot – even if it turns out that you have been wrong and must change direction.
Another important factor in taking control of your life is assuming responsibility for being instrumental in creating the current state of your life. With consciousness and responsibility come the capacity and possibility for change.
We encourage you to spend time taking stock of your life – area by area – career, economy, friends, leisure time etc. How does it look compared to your dreams? Are you happy with what you see? Are you content? Is it fantastic?
Think with your mind and feel with your heart and your body. If it feels natural and calm all three places, then you are probably on track. If there is something that makes you feel insecure, uneasy or that seems meaningless to you, there is probably cause for stopping and reconsidering the situation.
December, Christmas and New Year’s – there is something about this time of year that makes us look back at the year that is coming to an end…
So what will you remember from 2012?
Does it bring a smile to your lips, tears to your eyes or maybe both?
Whatever it does to you – breathe into those feelings and accept it – what is done is done. And regret is such a waste of time.
Instead consider how you can make 2013 even better. Decide now what you want to remember 2013 for – write it down and use a minute to day dream that it is a year from now – December 2013 – what does it feel like to have achieved it and to be looking back on 2013?
Remember the Workbook is full of useful excercises on how to evaluate, set goals and achieve them - treat yourself to it this Christmas!
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Do you know what you want? What we mean is, do you know what you REALLY want? What makes you happy? What makes you jump out of bed in the morning? What puts a smile on your face?
Use a few minutes to think about what you really want, before you fill out your Christmas wish list this year. Consider if maybe you could list things that can’t be bought, but would wonderful gifts to receive…. it might also inspire you on what to give your loved ones this year.
Now you’ve all heard of recycling – but how about upcycling?
Upcycling is the process of converting waste materials or useless products into new materials or products of better quality or for better environmental value.
So before you go discarding something that is just good and not fantastic, consider if just might be possible to upgrade and upcycle it to something more valuable.
Every cloud has a silver lining – have you found yours?
And we hope that you’ll join us – make a deal with your friends not to complain and grouch. We’re sure it will make you feel a whole lot better – try it and please let us know how it goes!
We are not saying that you should not vent your dissatisfaction. Of course you may – get it out if you need to. But once is sufficient; then let it go. The more you talk about what makes you unhappy without changing the situation, the more you maintain and reinforce what makes you dissatisfied.
Make a decision to change what you are dissatisfied with. Make it a goal. It is an easy shortcut to a greater feeling of contentment.
Need inspiration on how to clarify your goal? Check out pages 16-20 in The Workbook.
Excercise – what is your core challenge?
1. Look back at the last 3 goals you set – did you reach them? If yes, then what was the most difficult part? if no, then what stopped you?
2. Can you you see a connection between what was the most difficult or what stopped you? Note down some words describing any commonalities.
3. Describe your core challenge.
How to take the first step toward changing your habits and convictions!
1. Describe what you get out of acting the same way? What would you gain by changing your behavior?2. What convictions do you have that prevent you from reaching your goals? (for example – fearing criticism form others)
3. Write a mantra to help remind you why it is important to you to reach your goals. Put it on your fridge or have your phone remind you. For example “If I don’t XXX, I’ll always regret it!” og “I accept and embrace myself and my choices – and that makes me strong”.
In step 3 in our workbook you’ll find more in depth ways to work around and overcome challenges. The workbook gives you excercises for each of the 5 steps – so you can coach yourself to evaluate, set goals, overcome challenges, plan your strategy and finally celebrate your success.
For more information about the workbook click here…